In a blender add poppy seeds,melon seeds,chopped onion,cinnamon,cardamom,mace /javitri,cumin seeds,white pepper and one tbsp water to make a fine paste.Heat oil in a pan.Add this paste and saute till oil seperate from pan.Add mawa /whole dried milk and saute for 2 - 3 mins.Add milk little by little in a pan.Add tomato puree and stir fry in a medium flame to make a thick gravy.Add sugar,salt and cottage cheese /paneer cubes and mix well.